Man created God in his image and not the other way around – that’s the truest statement anyone ever made.
Religion often bestows power on those who brought it forth, so usually religions that spring up in hugely patriarchal societies are immensely patriarchal – granting unlimited power to men and oppressing and subjugating women. You just have to read the Quran and the Old Testament to understand this simple fact.
Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, who recently got his a** divorced and still probably still smarting from it, recently preached a sermon on how women have to subdue themselves to their husbands.
He literally used the word master, perhaps not realising, or realising and not caring – that whenever there’s a master in a relationship, the other person is a servant – literally.
But he’s simply preaching the message from the bible, written at a time when women were treated as chattel.
Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.
The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.
This would resonate with a lot of women, but that’s because that’s what your religion and your society has drilled into you all your life. It’s this mindset that says a woman is not complete unless she’s married, and that ruins the lives of career women. There’s no reason for a marriage to be a master/slave situation – it wholly demeans women. But then that’s the whole shtick of Christianity.
Perhaps if he hadn’t thought his wife was his servant and listened to her needs, she might never have divorced him.
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